Friday, November 13, 2009

Worry

Parenthood brings with it many changes to your life: less sleep, less time for yourself, more toys, more joy, more love….and…WORRY. From the moment I brought my sweet baby girl home I have experienced more worry in my life. Anytime she was peacefully sleeping, I would creep to the side of her bed just to make sure that she was still breathing. As she has gotten older, new worries have been added: will she make friends, will she make the right friends, is she learning enough, is she watching too much TV, does she eat too much, does she eat enough….so many things to worry about, so little time!

How can we keep this worry from becoming overwhelming? The media blasts us with so much coverage of violence that it would be easy to just lock our children away and shelter them completely. Here is what I have found to be of help to me:
  • I don’t watch the news every day! That is not to say that I don’t try to keep up with what is going on in the world around me, I just don’t allow myself to be drawn in by the sensationalism.

  • Be Prepared: the Boy Scouts have been telling us for years to be prepared, and being prepared for difficult times can help to counteract worry. This can be physical preparation for possible disaster (having an emergency kit, food supply, etc) or emotional preparation for the curves that life will throw at you. Don’t wait and worry about whether your child will choose to do drugs or abuse alcohol; start teaching them young about how to take care of their bodies.

  • Remember to tell your family that you love them, everyday! This may not really cut back on your worry, but you will feel so much better. You also won’t live with the regret that you didn’t express your feelings when you had the chance.

  • Do your best, and then accept you can’t control everything. Realizing that you are not in control of everything and giving up that control is probably one of the hardest parts of being a parent. But when we do, the worry seems to ease and a sense of peace can take its place.

  • Sure, there will always be worry, you can’t avoid it completely. But, you can keep it from controlling your life.

    - Christine

    Posted by Christine of Random Thoughts With Chris

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