Ah, dating - the great bank account drain. It may sound like I'm being cynical, but think about how much money you spent on your last relationship before it came to an end. Going out is expensive, and if you're doing it several nights a week, those expenses add up quickly. Oh, and if you and your date get in the habit of giving each other gifts, well... say goodbye to all your extra cash.
And then, if you manage to hang on until the next stage of the relationship, you start to have to deal with the more personal expenses. You become more involved with your lover's financial situation, even to the point of helping them deal with it. You may have helped them pay off loans, pay their bills, even pay the tax man. And yet, when it comes to protecting our own mind and soul, the last place we think of spending money is at the therapist. We can't afford it; being in a relationship is too expensive to set aside money for personal sanity.
The average relationship comes to its summit during the sixth week of being together. This high point follows the complicated game during which we feed our insecurities, lure each other with our lust, and put on a big show for the other person. Eventually, the façade fades, and the dreaded moment comes when this person sees the human being you are, instead of the all-singing, all-dancing rock star you seemed to be at the beginning. It's all downhill from there, and they'll soon be on their way out the door... if you don't beat them to it by getting out first.
But what if the world suddenly changed, and all of a sudden that game wasn't necessary anymore? What if your worth to another person wasn't measured by your bank balance or your bra size? Is it even possible to imagine that?
I'm smiling gratefully at the moment, because not only is it possible to imagine that, but we have the power to make it a reality at this very moment. We are at the turning point for a new level in our evolution of humanity, where we let go of all the damaging, destroying, and desperate acts of the past, and embrace our ability to find happiness within ourselves rather than seeking it everywhere else.
We are so very lucky to be in the world at this pivotal time. While most people are still stumbling around in the darkness of relationships based on insecurity, there are increasing numbers of people dedicating themselves to a higher existence, to following their higher consciousness to a place where human beings are seen for who they really are, not what purchasing power they have. Recent studies have shown something very promising - that although we do have natural urges that play a role in helping us attract a mate, we as humans have something even stronger that primates don't possess: the ability to be self-aware, and to make decisions based on logical conclusions rather than just our biological cravings. We are not just able to think about what we are doing, but we are also able to choose our path before we get to the part about dire consequences. We can decide to avoid being led around by our sex organs, and to take control of our lives once and for all.
This is the key to being truly rich, to having more to bring to a relationship than any bank account could ever provide. Once you realize who you really are, and accept that you are this beautiful and unique manifestation of the divine, it will be easy to see how priceless your contribution to the world is, and how anyone would be fortunate to be with you, just for who you are. This is the true value of you - not your money, not your willingness to drop your drawers. You do not have to prove anything to anyone to be deserving of love. You only have to learn to love yourself, to nurture that internal relationship, and then watch the magic happen as you venture out into the world and potential mates see this love within you and want to be a part of it. I say it all the time, but that's because it's true: Great relationships begin within. Get your copy of Hindsight, What You Need to Know Before You Drop Your Drawers, and learn more about following your higher consciousness.
May every blessing be yours!
by Maryanne Comaroto of Maryanne Live