The holidays can be an overwhelming mix of joy and stress. Hopefully yours will be pure joy. But this time of year, anxiety can ratchet up when you don't know where you stand with your significant other. However, if you know how to read his signals, the holidays can actually give you a preview of life together in the coming New Year. Holidays - particularly Christmas, New Year’s, and Valentine's Day - indicate how your guy really feels about you. And with the holidays upon us, if you and your guy still don't have a plan locked down, then it's time to open your eyes. There is a big red flag waving in front of you. You may be experiencing ''Holiday Hedging'' and not even know it.
If you're counting down to the holiday celebrations, and suddenly your man is MIA, taking off on an emergency business trip, or dodging the lock down of a plan - then heads up! You just found out what you need to know. In the infamous words of Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, “He’s just not that into you.”
Holiday hedging happens for a number of reasons - none of them good. ''Your'' guy may not want to spend the holidays with you because he’s up to monkey business. He’s most likely spending time with another woman, perhaps even his wife! Holiday Hedging can be financially motivated. He may be not want to buy you, and perhaps a chain of other women, a gift. He may also disappear so he doesn’t have to deal with the pressure of stepping up your “relationship” by introducing you to his friends or family. Nice guy, huh?
Understanding the meaning of Holiday Hedging is very simple: If your guy is not with you during the holidays, then he’s not fully committed in his relationship with you. This may sound brutal, but it’s true. When you find yourself starting to make excuses for his behavior, remember this: Men always make time for what’s important in their lives. It’s always better to find out the truth sooner rather than later. You deserve a man who doesn't want to spend the holidays without you. Time is too precious to waste on a man who is hedging.
About Donna Estes Antebi
Donna Estes Antebi is the Founder of TheRealSecretsWOW.com and author of The Real Secrets Women Only Whisper. Donna is a featured blogger for the Huffington Post, where her humorous take on women's, children's, and topical hot-button issues solicits laughs as well as controversy. She is a mentor for The Founder Institute, galvanizing the next generation of young entrepreneurs to lead world-class companies across a wide range of cutting edge industries, from the biotech to the internet.
Over the past twenty-five years, Donna's creative business solutions have yielded impressive results. Early in her career, Donna founded International Film Promotions, building it into one of the largest product placement and promotion companies in the entertainment industry. As an advocate for the rights of women and children, Donna, through her philanthropic efforts, became the Founding Chair of Cedars-Sinai C.O.A.C.H. For Kids. Donna sits on the Cedars-Sinai Board of Governors and on the advisory board for New York based Children's Health Fund.